Tapestry

A space for White women to explore how their identities have intersected with power structures that sustain patriarchy and racism, from slavery to the ‘Karen’ stereotype. Through live courses, community events, and immersive experiences, we aim to create a supportive environment where everyone can thrive.

Ways to Engage

From our Resource Guide - Considerations for Action

We commit to noticing when we fall into the common pitfalls of rushing to action, including white exceptionalism, saviorism, and centering. These pitfalls exist even when working with other White people, especially in multi gender spaces. We can minimize the impact of our inevitable mistakes when we ask ourselves a few questions to slow ourselves down enough to take more skillful, reflective action. 

Have I really looked internally and am I committed to continually doing so?

White people tend to look externally, which can create challenges in two ways: i) We assume our own goodness. Our behavior may be creating harm or replicating a white supremacy culture or systems of oppression. ii) We lean into our identity as caregivers, savers of others, problem solvers, often focused on driving outcomes, not on relationships, which is especially risky when we don’t know what we don’t know. Resource: Sit with “Characteristics of White Supremacy Culture” by Tema Okun and Kenneth Jones; and Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad)

Am I continuously showing up with humility and curiosity?

We should assume BIack, Indigenous, and other People of Color know some things that we don’t, especially about race and racism. If something doesn’t make sense, ask to better understand, not to parse and prove your wisdom or worth. Resource: Sit with the “7 Circles of Whiteness” by Alishia McCullough, especially circle 7.

Is there an opportunity first to support BIPOC leadership?

Black, Indigenous, and other People of Color have been leading this work for generations. Our first step is always to seek out, listen to, and support BIPOC leadership, particularly in resourcing their priorities with financial and social capital. Also, consider seeking advice and listening to voices of other marginalized communities, including Women of Color and members of the LBGTQ community, who have been active in liberatory/anti-oppression work.

Am I doing the right work?

  • On any given issue, ask first what BIPOC leadership needs done. Then, consider what you might be uniquely suited to do and offer that. Resource: Sit with “Wanna be an ally?” from Gesturing Toward Decolonial Futures.

  • Given who holds most power, consider focusing on engaging other White women with the same explicit guardrails. Lovingly invite them into places of discomfort and to prioritize this work with their time, networks, and money.

Am I prepared to ‘get it wrong’ and make amends?

We will not be perfect in our actions and yet we recognize that action is important. Are you prepared to be ‘called in,’ to own your mistakes, and to stay committed to the work? Resource: Reflect on “The Four Parts of Accountability” by Mia Mingus.

Do I belong to a BIPOC accountable community of practice?

Developing racial competence and stamina is lifelong work and we benefit from having racial affinity groups like ours to guide our learning and hold us accountable for skillful reflective action. While we do this work together, there are other groups to consider as well, such as engaging with the Groundwater Network, Move the Crowd, The Equity Practice, Black Octopus Society, and Wabanaki Reach. We mention these organizations due to our personal engagement with them, however we also acknowledge that there are many other incredible BIPOC led communities of practice.

We believe that relationship must be at the center of all actions. Relationship is the destination as well as the journey. Relationship is the outcome as well as the process. This work requires White women to value being in right relationship OVER being right, OVER impact and outcome, OVER speed and scale. To build relationship, we recognize that we must SLOW DOWN; this is our ‘Golden Rule’ because relationships require trust and time.